Understanding Suicidal Thoughts and How to Offer Support

Suicide is a deeply complex and distressing issue that affects individuals across all walks of life. As we grapple with the rising cases of suicide, particularly among young people and university students in Kenya, it’s crucial to shed light on the thought processes of those contemplating suicide. Additionally, we’ll explore ways friends and family can provide meaningful support during these challenging times, and where you can get professional help.

Inside the Suicidal Mind

1. The Burden Perception:
   • Suicidal individuals often perceive themselves as burdens to others. Feelings of depression, anxiety, and hopelessness can fuel this distorted belief.
   • They may feel that their struggles are overwhelming and that their existence only adds to the challenges faced by their loved ones.
2. Emotional Pain and Desperation:
   • The emotional pain experienced by someone contemplating suicide can be excruciating. It may stem from various sources, such as loss, rejection, or mental health conditions.
   • Desperation sets in when they see no way out of this pain. Suicide becomes an option to escape the relentless suffering.
3. Hopelessness and Isolation:
   • Suicidal thoughts thrive in an environment devoid of hope. The individual may feel trapped, believing that their circumstances will never improve.
   • Isolation exacerbates this hopelessness. They may withdraw from social connections, feeling utterly alone in their struggle.
4. The Inner Battle:
   • Suicidal ideation is a constant internal battle. The person grapples with conflicting thoughts: the desire to end their pain versus the fear of death.
   • The mind oscillates between seeking relief and fearing the unknown.

How Friends and Family Can Help

1. Be Attentive and Non-Judgmental:
   • Listen actively when your loved one expresses distress. Avoid judgment or dismissive remarks.
   • Validate their feelings without trying to fix everything. Sometimes, just being heard can provide immense relief.
2. Encourage Professional Help:
   • Urge them to seek professional assistance. Suggest contacting a suicide hotline or a mental health professional.
   • Offer to accompany them to appointments or help them find resources.
3. Stay Connected:
   • Regularly check in with the person. Isolation worsens suicidal thoughts.
   • Invite them for activities or simply spend time together. Your presence matters.
4. Safety Measures:
   • Remove access to lethal means (such as firearms or medications).
   • Create a safety plan together. Identify coping strategies and emergency contacts.
5. Express Your Concerns:
   • Be honest about your worries. Let them know you care deeply.
   • Ask directly about suicidal thoughts. It shows you’re willing to listen and support.
6. Educate Yourself:
   • Learn about suicide prevention. Understand warning signs and risk factors.
   • Attend workshops or read reliable resources to equip yourself better.

A Message to Those in Crisis

If you’re reading this and feeling overwhelmed, please know that you’re not alone. Reach out to someone you trust—a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. You matter, and there is hope even in the darkest moments. Seek help; you deserve support and healing.

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Remember, life is precious, and there are people who care about you.

Contact Professionals

Here are some organisations in Kenya that focus on mental health and provide support for individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts:

1. Africa Mental Health Research and Training Foundation (AMHRTF):
   • Description: AMHRTF is a non-governmental organization based in Kenya. They conduct research in mental and neurological health and substance use. Their goal is to generate evidence for policy and best practices in providing affordable, accessible mental health services. You can reach them at AMHRTF website or via email at info@amhf.or.ke.
2. Centre for Rights Education and Awareness (CREAW):
   • Description: CREAW focuses on human rights, including mental health rights. They advocate for gender equality and work to create awareness about mental health issues. Visit their website here.
3. Coalition for Action for Preventative Mental Health (CAMPH) Kenya:
   • CAMPH collaborates with various organizations to promote preventive mental health measures. They work on community-based interventions and awareness campaigns. Learn more about their initiatives on the MHIN website.
4. Kenya Alliance for Mental Health (KAMH):
   • KAMH aims to improve mental healthcare in Kenya by partnering with universities, hospitals, schools, law enforcement, and faith-based organizations. They advocate for expanded access to mental healthcare. Explore their work on the KAMH website.
5. Chiromo Lane Medical Centre (now Chiromo Mental Health Hospital):
   • Description: Established in 1997, this private healthcare facility primarily serves the large and growing fee-paying middle class. It focuses on delivering dignified and private mental health care. Chiromo Ln, Nairobi, Kenya. For more information check out Chiromo Lane Medical Centre